February 26, 2012 by
If you Love Life, Life will Love you Back.
Think back to when you were graduating from high school. Did you ever in a million years think that you would become the person that you are today?
Life has a funny way of throwing people and events at you that will cause you to go in a direction that you didn’t foresee. Some of them make life easier and some of them make life more challenging. But regardless, they have brought you exactly where you are.
I’ve come to realize that there is only one thing that can shape the course of your life path. You can’t buy it. No one can help you with it. You can’t find it online or in a store. You’ve got to look for it inside yourself.
‘What is it’ you ask? The answer will be so simple that might be disappointed.
It’s your attitude, your outlook. That’s the frame for everything in your life. Good and bad, happy and sad.
What is your overall attitude? Are you mostly cynical? Mostly cheerful? Mostly unhappy? Mostly contented? Mostly worried? Do you embrace change? Are you confident? Are you a martyr?
I’m primarily an optimist. I wasn’t always one. But over the course of time I came to realize that I could choose to be optimistic. Optimists were a group that drew me to them. I decided that I wanted to be one of those. That’s right, it’s a choice.
Over a decade ago, I had a life-changing event that gave me pause to consider the type of person that I was. I had a falling out with a long-time friend. We didn’t have a specific fight, the problem was that she was poisoning my life outlook and making me feel and act cynical and judgemental. It wasn’t easy to break up with her. We had been best friends in high school, and we were each other’s maids of honor. Not an easy break up. But I could no longer allow her to be a toxic influence in my life. I was turning into a cynical, judgemental person. I had to choose not to have her in my life any more.
Have you ever met someone who can never be satisfied? If you ask them how their trip was they’ll tell you all the negative things that happened. If you ask them how they are doing they’ll tell you that they’re cold or just getting over an illness. If you ask them if they’re looking forward to the holidays they’ll complain to you about the work that it will take to pull it off and how no one will appreciate it anyway.
No matter how lovely the topic, this Cynic will tell you the down side of the story. This is a reflection of their attitude. I’m certain that all of those topics have a good side, but they have chosen to focus on the negative, and so they have perceived only the negative aspects of those events.
Have you ever met someone who is always optimistic? Someone who just rolls with the punches and move through life with a smile.
If you visit this Optimist at the hospital after a major surgery they’ll tell you which nurse is their favorite (you’ll probably notice lots of smiling nurses hovering around their bed.) If they lose their job, they hit the streets with perseverance certain that there’s a better one out there. When they lose someone close to them and have worked through their mourning period they are quick to recount happy stories of times shared, and think about the lost one with fondness rather than grief.
Many of us find ourselves in the middle.
I would describe myself as a realistic, logical, optimistic, loving, helpful person. Sometimes I’m a little bit soft, and criticism can be painful for me. But I do make a point to embrace each day and task with a positive outlook and attitude. Even distasteful jobs become less distasteful when you decide to be positive about getting them completed.
Make a point of noticing your attitude. Next time you’re mopping the floor, whistle a happy tune and enjoy how clean it has become. This is advice I offer to my kids on a routine basis. It’s all in your attitude. If yours needs adjustment, it’s up to you to do it.